Course or Coarse correction….

I saw this tweet yesterday by my colleague Larry Wohlrabhe, Bishop of Northwest Minnesota Synod, which I retweeted followed by Pr. Tiffany Chaney.

 

THis is a FACEBOOK LIKE 17 times over, and I realize, that I/we need to be exceedingly careful as we wrestle with the breakdown of Christendom.  The 'nones' conversation is all the buzz right now.  It's the 2010's decade version of the 'seeker' conversation from the 90's.  The conversation is basically the same, only I want to add a major course correction.

We need to shift away from "reaching the nones" to ministry with the 'nones.'  These categories are helpful for shortening the need to define the large swath of people, 75% in New England, who do not participate in a church, temple, or synagogue, BUT, they are not helpful in that they reduce human beings to objects or even, prey.   I'll continue to use the phrase 'nones' as a shorthand, but know that I am speaking about Cory, Debbie, Carol, Luis, Shavon, Terrence, George.

Alan Roxburgh has been very helpful to me, in reaffirming the Jesus movement was primarily about joining people in their communities and discovering what God is doing in their lives.  So the questions we engage in today are not, How do we get the nones to come to our church or how do we market to them.  THe question is, how can we join the nones in discovering what God is doing in the neighborhood.

Ideas 

Church folk making friends with non-church folk

Walk across the street and shovel your neighbors walkway or mow the lawn

Pay the toll for the person behind you

Get to know people and invite them for coffee in your house

Attend an open AA meeting and just sit there and listen

 

Our posture as christians need to shift from proclamation to discernment, and discernment means listening. That's a skill we can all benefit, and will indeed contribute to making the world a better place.  Infact, I would suggest it might even be the first step in our time for partnering with God in the rebuilding of the community of the world (aka the Kingdom of God if you want the biblical language)

Ouch! Hurt, Angry and Bored.

"It took me over a decade to think about attending a church from another tradition."  She was describing the pain of leaving the church of her childhood, in this case the Roman Catholic church

One of the more interesting pieces of research on the growing number of people who have left the church comes from the work of Elizabeth Drescher. In this article/interview, she describes something that I have intuitively sensed for years, but never had confirmation. Roman catholics have left their church largely out of a sense of betrayal.  Whether it is over divorce or sexual abuse scandals, many RC's have moved on out of a sense of lost loyalty i.e. they were loyal but the church was not.  Those who have walked away from evangelical or what we might call conservative churches have left out of anger.  They have a sense of being duped or tricked on topics like evolution, and as they matured in faith and life they discovered new ways of thinking about life.  But, most people who have left mainline congregations, such as Lutherans, Episcopalians and Methodists, left because, well, they were bored.  They did the church thing and got it, and it seems there was nothing more.  They got bored and dropped out.

I want to dive into this topic more deeply with Elizabeth and Keith Anderson, when they are with us on Saturday, January 25th at Trinity in Worcester.  We'll be broadcasting this event on this new fangled thing called the internet.  If you would like to attend, you can register by clicking here.  If you are not in the area, send me an email, and I'll get you access for the internet webcast.

 

Engaging the 'Nones' in the task of Preaching

I am currently attending the final day of the Winter Conference of Bishops, where our closing lecture is from Shauna Hannen, professor of preaching at Southern Seminary. She has just outlined a simple yet wonderful idea that I wanted to share with you. Form a preaching preparation group that includes people in your community who are not a part of a faith community. If I were in the parish, I'd be all over this idea.

Here is the outline of how to do it.

- Gather five people from your congregation to be a part of a short term, say four week group.
- This is not a study group or a periscope study group this is a faith exploration group.
- Find one or two people in your community who do not go to church to be a part of the group.
- have the group meet off site I.e. Not in the church building.
- Pick one of the texts for Sunday, just one, probably the more narrative type text, such as the gospel.
- Maybe have this group engage in conversation over a meal or at least coffee and tea
- As you discuss the scripture I have found that asking 'What do you wonder about in this story?'
- As the leader of this group, you are not the master of all knowledge, you are the facilitator. Your task is to help people explore the interaction of the story with their story.
- if people share an illustration from their lives, and you are thinking of using it in a sermon, you can ask the person for permission to share it in your sermon. Or better yet, if they can be invited to tell their story during your sermon.

Try it for four weeks, then let people go, and find another five to six people for a new group.

Why we all need an alternative vocation

As some of you know, part of my life has been spent as a professional photographer.  In some ways, it was my first career.  My dream in elementary school was to be a newspaper photographer.  That was in an era when newspaper and magazine photographers were appreciated, valued and compensated.  However, I got side tracked by a career in snow shoveling with my younger brother.  

Then came seminary, family, kids, dogs and mortgage.  I resurrected the photography gear and went to work in the late 90's doing wedding and portrait work, initially for fun, then later for profit in order to send my son to college.  It was either that or lay the burden of a ton of student loans on the kid.  The wedding work paid well, but it was the portrait work that I loved.

I photographed a Modern Dance Group on the Beach 

A decorated sailor who survived the attack on Pearl Harbor


Surfer's on the beach, and an Old Man of the Sea


Street portraits for anyone who came along 

In time a ventured out in composite portraits with various Musicians and Hip Hop Artitists

There were athletes

It was a grand run, a creative burst of energy.  At midlife I was able to explore both a creative as well as a technical aspect of life that was not formally connected to parish ministry.  In many ways, it kept me going in parish ministry longer.   

I firmly believe that everyone needs an alternative vocational, some call it an avocation.  If you have another area of focus (gardening, or pottery, or carpentry or learning another language or music, or acting or you fill in the blank) it allows you to see the world differently, meet new people, reframe your consciousness.  It actually improves your main work. 

With very few exceptions, the trip to Israel/Palestine, I haven't had the cameras out very much in the last year and a half.  Infact, I sold most of my gear after being elected.  But, now I'm starting to carry the camera around more and more.  I'm not looking for jobs, not at all.  No, rather, I'm looking at life, at moments and people, expressions and impressions.  Today the camera is a tool for spiritual interpretation of the world around me.  Today it's functioning as an expression of my prayer life.  

Be ready, I just might take your portrait at an unexpected moment.

 

What the critics of Nadia Bolz-Weber don't get

Nadia Bolz Weber is the Lutheran Pastor at a new congregation in Denver, Colorado, called House for All Sinners and Saints.  Her life story has been chronicled in her latest book Pastrix.  She and her congregation have received quite a bit of publicity of late, and with that has come the usual cheap shots of shallow criticism.

Nadia at House for all Sinners and Saints  NPR photo

Her critics often pick on her truck driver language or her physical appearance which includes tattoos, or even her less than perfect background and life story.   Having been on the receiving end of criticism similar to these myself, I have little patience for this kind of tattle tale third grade approach, often leveled by online blogs and chat rooms of people hiding behind a veil of jealousy, self-righteousness and just plain mean spiritedness.  (Yes, I know you read this blog as well and I’ve intentionally given you some content here to keep you busy for a while)

What Nadia's critics don't get, and what they are ultimately critiquing, is that she is not interested in engaging the culture of nice churchiness.  She is engaging with the culture of broken people.  Now I'll admit that dualistic distinction is unfair, because we all know that brokenness is everywhere.  But, I'm going to use that split to make a point.

In the United States there is a culture of church life.  It is a culture that has some core values including: the value of being nice, the value of a language of orthodoxy (which is not orthodoxy but adherence to one way of articulating the faith) and the value of defensiveness.  The last one kicks in when either of the first two are challenged.  Nadia is not interested in that culture.  Her ministry is with people for whom that culture is as foreign as breathing on the moon.  

Her way of engaging people who are hungry and hurting for authentic community is reminiscent of Dietrich Bonhoeffer, who was attempting to create an alternative authentic Christian community in Finkenwalde, Germany during the Nazi occupation.  Nadia is exploring what the gospel of Jesus might look like outside of that church culture.  This is a profoundly significant experiment on her part and I applaud her efforts.  We have historically wrapped gospel, church and culture together into one package, and then said to people you've got to accept the whole thing.

No.  I think that is at the heart of our problem.  We have made gospel subservient to church and culture.  As I read the New Testament what I find is Jesus articulating gospel as having a unique message that speaks to culture and church often as a counter weight or critique.  Lesley Newbigin and Alan Roxburgh have shown us in their writings.  When Jesus sends his disciples out in Luke 11, and they are to greet the towns people with ‘Shalom’, that greeting is a direct subversive move against the occupying army of Rome, who would announce a different kind of Peace. The Romans held up the sign that said PAX, which meant there will be peace as long as you embrace the Roman culture and ideology.  The disciples greeted people with Shalom, a radically different kind of peace.  The Peace that passes all understanding.  The peace of the kingdom of God.

Not knowing Nadia personally, I am simply watching and learning like everyone else.  What I'm seeing is someone who I believe is genuinely attempting to be a disciple of Christ.  She's doing it with all the shortcomings that any of us would embark on such a quest. God's grace is sufficient.

In Nadia, I'm seeing someone get out of the nice church box and engage people, many of whom have little interest in that box, but a whole hell of a lot of interest in an authentic community where Jesus is present, whether they like it or not. 

We would all do well to learn from God’s experiment at House for all Sinners and Saints.

Below is a link to an NPR Morning Edition profile of her congregation, along with wonderful commentary by Bishop Jim Gonia of the Rocky Mountain Synod.

Peter Steinke helps us understand where we are

Back to the Future

by Peter Steinke

At a workshop I was leading, a woman stood up and said, “If 1950 were to return, my congregation would be ready.” Succinctly, she summarized a nagging problem for many churches. The context in which congregations now find themselves is quite different from 1950. “How we do church,” though, has been quite persistent: Become a member of the local congregation, contribute money and effort, participate in communal events, volunteer time and goods, and worship regularly or at least several times a year. This pattern of “church” continued for decades in North America, but then things changed quickly.

There once was a world where the church functioned according to what some have called the “attractional” model (others have named it the participatory model). People come to a place, consume the spiritual goods, and serve as patrons to “meet the budget.” But a shift has happened. North American culture has taken new turns.

Christendom refers to a period of time when the Christian faith profoundly informed the culture. And, in turn, the culture carried the traditions, symbols, and rituals of the Christian faith. Another often-used term—post-Christian era—captures the reality that the importance and influence of Christianity in North American society has been in decline for at least three decades. In a “post-Christian” world, the church cannot expect favorable treatment or higher visibility.

One could say that a gathering storm—a confluence of factors—has assailed the church and its dominant perch on the societal ladder. None of this has to do with the church's internal functioning. The sea change is external or contextual. There once was a world that was eager to be hospitable to Christian churches and supported “blue laws,” soccerless Sundays, eating fish rather than meat on Friday, public prayer in schools and at nodal events, deferring to clergy by way of discounts, weekly religion sections in urban newspapers, and greeting others with “Merry Christmas.” Now, suddenly, with steep changes happening in our society, congregations have to ask themselves whether they are responding to a world that no longer exists.

The loss of members, influence, and a sense of mission—the church's misfortune of the moment—resembles the experience of Israel's exile. The lesson of the present dislocation is clear, if still not learned. The era of Christendom is gone. No longer is culture subsidizing and supporting churches.

Today's rapidly changing world is pressing the church to respond to a shift of paradigms—but not for the first time. In previous shifts, the church has both responded slowly and responded imaginatively. More than once, much of what people have thought and done has had to be reworked.

Each shift carried both danger and opportunity. In today's context, the church is challenged by the astonishing pace of change in the world. We are in some ways ill prepared to act rapidly, since the church is as an entity made up of people who are creatures of nature, subject to seasons, rhythms, and stages. We cannot be mechanically geared for shifting quickly.

Regardless of the nature of change, the church affirms that the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob is the God who has been active in history and who will be active in the future. Faced with a strange new world, the church is challenged to be true to its purpose and attuned to its context. I believe the paradigm shift of rapid change constitutes a rich opportunity for the church. God has set the door open to the future. But the new day is as perplexing as it is promising. As Old Testament scholar Walter Brueggemann explains, “It is abundantly and unmistakably clear that we are in a deep dislocation in our society that touches every aspect of our lives.” We are living in a new context where old certainties are disappearing, old institutions are less dependable, old assumptions are questionable, and old neighborhoods are less cohesive. Logically, if not spiritually, we may even have to allow for the possibility that these dislocations could be part of God's new creation. It may be God working through the unknown that contributes to the destabilization of the world. God is no stranger to Eden's deportation, Babel's scattering, the exodus, the exile, and crucifixion. God can be surprising, mysterious, taking history into unexpected turns.

The challenge of change for a congregation on a steady downward slope is precisely to redefine and redirect its mission. They have to realize that decline is not an end to mission. Yes, they are mere shadows of their past. Yes, rethinking mission is difficult, for congregations are burdened by big or deteriorating buildings, smaller staffs, a paucity of young families, and a shortage of hope. But expansion is not the sole gauge of mission orientation. One problem with this thinking is the belief that, for congregations, all things are equal. But congregations are not in the same place, same stage, or same circumstance. That's not reality.

Congregations may hanker for a technique that will bring about results they want to achieve; they want to replicate what has been discovered by someone else: “Give me a copy of the wonderful plans.” Seeing what those plans have done for others, they want the same result—but without going through the process that got the others to that point. The shortcut of imitation certainly bypasses a lot of pain. How churches hunger for precisely this situation.

Meaningful, lasting outcomes are the result of the journey and the learning that takes place. Maybe a word of caution should be stamped on all programs: “Not transferable.” Transition time is life's curriculum. Being on the path opens new insight; being on the path, not the steps one takes, is the very condition necessary for learning.

The Bible is replete with stories of transition and exile. Jacob, who was always a wimpy character, is on his way to meet the brother he tricked and fooled. He struggles with an angel on the wet banks of the Jabbok River, and out of the struggle finds strength to meet his brother. Jesus spends forty days in the wilderness—alone, hungry, numb—and the devil tempts him three times. The process of thinking, testing, and exploring contains the lessons. Churches need to remember that no handbook is available on freelancing mission. Only by going out, being there, and seeing from a fresh angle will the process lead to learning. Discovering how to respond to shifts and changes is the learning. Self-confidence is a byproduct. But growth is in the struggle, the push, and the journey.

Adapted from A Door Set Open: Grounding Change in Mission and Hope by Peter L. Steinke, copyright © 2010 by the Alban Institute. All rights reserved.

What do they do?

Among the many ways our Synod staff are engaged in working with congregations for effective ministry, we also...

Repair driveways.

The entrance to our synod parking lot was in need of repair.  We initially put this out to bid from area contractors.  The lowest bid came back at $1500.

$1500, I shouted incredously, with multiple exclamation marks!!!!!

Paul Sinnott and I did the job on our own for only the cost of 4 bags of cold pack from Depot.  Total cost about $50.00.    We thought of going in to business on the side, and undercutting all the pavers in the area by 50%, but decided against it.

 

Photos by Jane Shields, who provided supervision.

Tim Keller on the need for Gospel

While I don't agree with everything that Tim Keller says or writes, I do find him to be a refreshing voice.  He is what I would call an intellectual evangelical, as opposed to those who express an overly simplistic form of evangelical Christianity.

 

His book, the Prodigal God, is one of the cleanest explanantions of Jesus parable of the Prodigal Son.  

In this short video above, he makes a claim that people are seeking out transcendence in the midst of an increasingly secular culture.  Note though, the difference.  People are seeking gospel, wherever they find it.  If they don't find it in a church, they are not going to stay.

In my mind the two fundamental searches in our time are a hunger for authentic community and a hunger for an encounter with God.  I have termed this elsewhere as, people don't want to know if the Christian faith is true, they want to know if it works.  I have even suggested that Lutherans are still answering a 16th century question with a 16th century answer.  Are we worshipping the reformation?  My thought is that we need to be answering a 21st century question with a 1st century answer.  Tim Keller helps answer that question, especially in the Prodigal God.

Matthew 18: The Frightening Gift Jesus gave Us

Recently, I attended a dinner party that was a retirement party for a good friend who was retiring after many years in academia.  There were toasts, humorous slideshows, wonderful meals and a fine selection of wines from Europe, Argentina and California.  As the twenty or so people mingled I found myself in an interesting conversation with someone who knew that I had been elected bishop, and wondered what it was like.  The question that stuck out for me most:  “So, what’s the one thing that makes the most difference in what you do?”

Wow!  Good question, I thought.  I think I answered something about the effectiveness of my visits to congregations, now nearing 165 (next week), but later I let the question sink in deep.  Ever have that happen?  Someone asks you a question, and it haunts you, penetrates deep, lasts a while.

I’ve pondered that question, and I think the honest answer is: “The single most significant thing I do that makes a difference is to have honest conversations with people.”  Or perhaps I should honestly say, “learning how to have those conversations and encouraging others to have them.”   Since most of us are not naturally gifted in this area we need training.  I’m learning from Jesus and Joseph Grenny.

Jesus gave us that wonderful, pain in the butt, gift recorded in Matthew 18:15-20.  

15 “If another member of the church sins against you, go and point out the fault when the two of you are alone. If the member listens to you, you have regained that one.  But if you are not listened to, take one or two others along with you, so that every word may be confirmed by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If the member refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if the offender refuses to listen even to the church, let such a one be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.  Truly I tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.  Again, truly I tell you, if two of you agree on earth about anything you ask, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven.  For where two or three are gathered in my name, I am there among them.”

I say wonderful and pain in the butt, because we would all rather he not have provided this instruction – cause it’s so difficult.  Face it, we’d all rather talk to everyone else about some difficult event that has happened, rather than speak directly to the person we have a breached relationship.  How do I know this?  Cause we all do it all the time.

I honestly believe that if we were able to follow Jesus directive here, large swaths of our interpersonal, political, international conflicts would be significantly improved.


Joseph Grenny and company have done some work in this area, and I’m learning from hom.  His book Crucial Conversations is one of those business self help books that makes for good airport reading.  But, it’s more than that.  It’s concrete tools for how to talk to people about difficult topics.  Those people could be our parents or children, co-worker, fellow church member, pastor, friend, enemy.  Here’s the claim:   Twenty years of research reveals that the key skill of effective leaders, from parents to presidents, is the capacity to skillfully address emotionally and politically risky issues.  Period.

We all need help in this area, cause there are very few people that are good at crucial conversations.  This is especially true in the church, where our dominant value is to be nice.  Well, I like to be nice, too.  And I like it when people are nice to me.  It feels good.  But, the problem is, it doesn’t get us anywhere.  There is no movement, we don’t make progress.  But, even more than that, it’s not really helpful if we are to grow as human beings in our relationships with one another or with God.  The reality is the way of the cross is the way of suffering, and suffering includes hearing and giving honest feedback. 

The best feedback I ever got about my preaching was from the late Rev. Spencer Rice, who was Sr. Rector of Trinity Church in Boston, MA.  He taught a summer course in homiletics (a fancy church word for how to give damn good sermons).  I preached for that class, and I thought I was pretty hot stuff.  Well, Spencer asked me to stay after class, and in a gentle, loving but forceful way gave me the biggest smack down of my life.  He showed me that although my words were saying one thing, everything else was communicating the opposite message.  It was hard to hear.  But, in the long run, he worked with me.  I thank God for that honest conversation he had with me 30 years ago.

Jesus gave us this gift in Matthew 18.  It’s a frightening gift, but in the long run, it’s a gift that has cost, but even greater reward.